Halloween is a bittersweet time for me in recent years. Once the happiest of holidays for me, it’s now also a reminder of a past life, an alternate reality, a would-have-been. Maybe that’s what’s behind my recent behavior. Those of you at happy hour the past two weeks know to what I am referring. Discretion, please. If any of that ends up on YouTube, you’re in so much trouble! Oh and thank you for being there for me.

For those of you thoroughly enjoying this Halloween, be safe, be happy and may your costumes win Best/Funniest/Scariest/Most Original/Sexiest.

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I’ve been delighted the past three weeks to get to know my new teammates through happy hour. It’s too busy to really get to talk at work. I felt pretty isolated at first, until I realized that it was just that everyone is so busy. Now, thanks to happy hour, I don’t feel like the stinky kid anymore.

Tonight, as it was my supervisor’s last happy hour as our supervisor, I decided to stay longer than I have been. It’s a good thing I did. I discovered that there are a few True Blood fans on my team, and even better a Unicorn! Woohoo!

Thanks again, Old Man Bobby, for being cool with me cancelling our plans at the last minute so I could stick around for “team building”.

Have you heard of this? As it turns out I’ve had a number of work boyfriends, and I find that it helps me go to work with a more positive attitude. What do you think about this whole thing? Have you had any experience with it yourself, good or bad? Discuss.

 

Platonic work flirting: Good for business?

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  • Professor: Having a “work spouse” can be a good thing
  • Says it’s an esteem booster, makes them happy to come to work
  • Questions to ask to make sure flirting doesn’t cross the line

By Jocelyn Voo

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(LifeWire) — They ate lunch together almost every day. They commiserated over professional and personal woes, and when projects ran long at the San Francisco architecture firm where they were both summer interns, they checked building plans together until they were sprung from the office at 10 p.m.

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Take care that a flirtation with a co-worker doesn’t cross the line.

“She was fun to hang out with, and sometimes she would do things that some might consider flirty, like run a hand through my hair to mess it up,” says Hayes Shair, now 25. “Sometimes I’d sort of flirt back.”

But Shair was dating his college sweetheart at the time. This woman was more like his “work girlfriend” — a coworker with whom one flirts platonically during office hours but without any romantic intentions.

It’s hardly a unique situation. The career information Web site Vault.com reports that in a 2007 office-romance survey of 575 employees, 23 percent said they had a “work husband” or a “work wife.”

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A thought on my new job. I am essentially learning a new language by immersion. It’s scary. I think I’ll like it, but it’s scary. Come Friday I’ll be ready for a drink.

I keep trying to remind myself that out of all the applicants, they picked me. I passed the final with a great score. Now I just need to put it all together and find my process. This is what I do. This part is my forte. Or at least it was when I was in travel. Now I’m now so sure. Wish me luck. Heck, wish me strength, wish me fortitude, anything that will help.