The daughter of one of my besties started up a blog. Her first post is about a movie named Timer. For the full discussion please visit Ms. Ashlianne’s blog. Here are my thoughts (with a few revisions) on the movie with the tagline, “If a clock could count down to the moment you meet your soul mate, would you want to know?”

Truly a mind-blowing concept! I must see this movie.

Would I get a timer? I don’t think so. I don’t think I would ever trust it.

Would it show negative time? That is, would it tell you if you had already met your soul-mate, but he/she is long since gone from your life?

Does the timer take into consideration that everyone has a different idea of what a soul-mate is? What if you believe your soul-mate should be the lover you spend the rest of your life with but it turns out to be “just” a life-long best friend? Would you have passed on some really great relationships due to the misunderstanding?

What about beliefs about past lives? What if you weren’t meant to meet your soul-mate in this lifetime? Would you feel you were robbed if it never showed a time? Would you be questioning whether or not it was faulty your whole life, and whether you had missed him/her? Or what if you were meant to meet your soul-mate, but weren’t meant to spend the rest of your lives together? Meant To Be isn’t necessarily Meant To Be Forever. Would the timer count down to zero when you met this person but go blank again when they passed from your life, or would you be looking at those zeros for the rest of your life?

So many questions! Thanks for the discussion!

♥Christa

Life is good in general.

  • Work is good.
  • No love life to speak of but I have some awesome crushes and that’s all I can handle right now.
  • I’m catching up on Castle (Hi Nathan! I’ve missed you.)
  • I have great friends.
  • I’m excited for E-Fabulous who is starting her career change. So proud!

I’m looking forward to:

  • My trip to IL for cousin Jennifer’s wedding.
  • My trip to IL for the family reunion (wish me luck, I’m still working this one out).
  • The Short Second Life of Bree Tanner! (or Midnight Sun, whichever comes out first. LOL)
  • The Eclipse movie (leg hitch and tent scene here we come!)
  • The next Sookie Stackhouse book.
  • True Blood!
  • The next A Song of Ice and Fire book (please GRRM?!?)
  • Make It Monday (even those E-Fabulous and I had dinner last night, sorta, and will have dinner again tonight).

Wow, has it really been since Halloween? I just don’t have time to do anything anymore. But today is not about complaints, it’s about being thankful. This year, I’m thankful to be employed. Not just employed, but employed by a fantastic company. I’m thankful for the new friends I’ve made, my teammates. I’m having a lot of fun with them. I’m feeling alive again.

Don’t get me wrong. Life after divorce has been great, but there were certain areas that I shut off. I’d joke about being dead inside, but it was sorta true. I don’t want to live like that anymore. Thanks for reminding me I’m awesome, and that I deserve to live life.

As always, I’m thankful for family. I’m alone here in AZ, yet I know you’re all there for me. I love your emails, your texts, your participation in the family website, and that you ask Mom about me. I love you.

It’s been a fabulous week for my family. Yesterday we welcomed the arrival of Owen Ryker Garvey, son of my cousin Ben Garvey and his lovely wife, Jeanne. Today we officially welcome Fitz to the family as he marries another cousin of mine, Kelly Q. We have our ups and downs, but when we’re up, we’re really up. Congratulations to the Garveys, Haleys, and Andersons! I have much love for you.

I’ve been thinking about it for a long time I suppose. He knows I’ve thought about it on and off since the beginning. Lately I’ve been really unhappy in the relationship though. It’s not anything that he did or didn’t do; it had just lost something. Or maybe I’ve started needing something that our relationship just never had. I think that’s more likely, considering how we got together. Whatever it is, I’m following my gut on this. I wouldn’t have said anything for a while, wanting to be sure, but when it came up on Friday I found myself saying that I wanted to end the relationship. So Old Man Bobby and I have parted as dear friends, family even, in hopes that we can each find happiness. On to new beginnings for us both.

Have you heard of this? As it turns out I’ve had a number of work boyfriends, and I find that it helps me go to work with a more positive attitude. What do you think about this whole thing? Have you had any experience with it yourself, good or bad? Discuss.

 

Platonic work flirting: Good for business?

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  • Professor: Having a “work spouse” can be a good thing
  • Says it’s an esteem booster, makes them happy to come to work
  • Questions to ask to make sure flirting doesn’t cross the line

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(LifeWire) — They ate lunch together almost every day. They commiserated over professional and personal woes, and when projects ran long at the San Francisco architecture firm where they were both summer interns, they checked building plans together until they were sprung from the office at 10 p.m.

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Take care that a flirtation with a co-worker doesn’t cross the line.

“She was fun to hang out with, and sometimes she would do things that some might consider flirty, like run a hand through my hair to mess it up,” says Hayes Shair, now 25. “Sometimes I’d sort of flirt back.”

But Shair was dating his college sweetheart at the time. This woman was more like his “work girlfriend” — a coworker with whom one flirts platonically during office hours but without any romantic intentions.

It’s hardly a unique situation. The career information Web site Vault.com reports that in a 2007 office-romance survey of 575 employees, 23 percent said they had a “work husband” or a “work wife.”

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I am thinking a lot about family today. We have had a few health problems lately. We are all praying for test results to come back with happy news, and for speedy recoveries. Today we remember my Uncle Mark, one of the best men anyone ever knew. Not that we don’t think of him everyday, he is just that sort of man, but today is the 3rd anniversary of his passing. We all miss him dearly. I miss him dearly. I would love to see the look on his face today as his daughter graduates from college, not only with honors, but with a special award for excellence given to only one female and one male senior per year. How he would have loved that achievement. I will miss seeing him in the pictures that will be posted on our family website.

Yes, you read that right. Bella Skywalker. This could only be a Random post, right? For those of you who don’t know, Random is my Unicorn friend–that mythical beast know as the man who reads Twilight. Out of the blue, this is how the texting started this evening, as if there had never been an interuption in last night’s text conversation.

Random: Finished New Moon today. Edward has confirmed that he’s a retard.

Me: You’re retarded! 🙂

Random: When you are over 100 years old and make Romeo look like a guy who knows how to make a plan work, that is truly special.

Me: You’re reading too much into it. That says a lot coming from me. He’s no more or less retarded than Romeo.

Random: Romeo is the king of dumb. And Edward is in his class at the very least.

(Agreed, but romance can make one stupid, especially boys.)

Random: And Bella is so typical. Although I expect that is the attraction for the target reader. She’s annoying as the heroine.

(Bella is typical in some ways which makes her relatable to a lot of readers. She a-typical in others whichs gives her the feeling of being special we all want. I relate to her in a big way, so I guess I’m annoying.)

Random: Then again, my favorite protagonists come from Ayn Rand and Isaac Asimov, so typical is not my cup of tea.

(Yeah, Random, I know you’re shocked, but I haven’t read any Rand and the Asimov I read was an excerpt or short story way back in the day. We read so many so close together in that class that I don’t remember what was his. As always, “It’s on the list.”)

Random: New Moon will make a horrible movie with Bella whining more than a Skywalker.

(Bella hurts on the inside but she suffers in silence. As a movie we shouldn’t be so “in her head”. Maybe it won’t come off so whiney to you.)

The texts were coming fast and furious while I was trying to find some paper to print my resume on. I couldn’t get a word in so I’ve added my thoughts in ( ).

I sat there dumbfounded at the Skywalker remark when my phone rang. I just started laughing. Apparently Random’s hatred for all things Twilight could not longer be contained in text. Rather than forgetting the books altogether, he needed to get vocal. I was still laughing when I answered. The first thing I heard was, “Bella Skywalker.” It had the ring of an epithet. I just laughed. Typical. Trying to get under my skin, deriding two of my favorite things at once: Twilight and Star Wars. And two of my favorite characters, too. Luke and Bella are the ones I relate to. Way to push my buttons, Random.

Ok, I had to admit Luke is a bit whiney: “But I was going to Toshi Station to pick up some power converters!” I didn’t read Bella as whiney though. I read her as strong. She knows what she wants and when she doesn’t get it she fights for it. She gets angry, petulant. He asserted that stamping your foot and demanding your way is just the teen version of whiney. He might have a point. But doesn’t that make the character more believable? Bella is flawed. That doesn’t mean the writing is flawed, just the opposite in my opinion.

He liked Carlisle. He relates to him most. I suppose I would have guessed that. In fact I think I did guess that once. I believe I made Random take the survey once upon a time, and predicted that he would be Carlisle. He thinks that the vampires being invincible superheroes is ridiculous, and that they should be running the world, not keeping the secret. The Volturi he thought were kind of cool. I had to admit that I never saw the point of keeping the secret even without the Volturi, as humans can’t harm vampires. But I try to let that sort of thing go. It’s fiction.

So we talked some shop, talked about the vibe at the company I no longer work for, but then we were right back to New Moon. He thought it was boring. He thought Edward was retarded. He was frustrated that Bella was going to be ok and then everything freaked out again. Basically everything I loved about the book, he hated. No big shock there.

I think the people who dislike the Twilight saga are the people who go into it expecting a vampire story. It’s a love story that just happens to have vampires and werewolves. As a friend of mine put it, it’s Vampire 90210.

We talked about the upcoming movie too. He’s convinced it will suck. He knows from the last two month’s worth of obsessing that I have my worries. If they stay true to the book, he thinks, there will be a opening scene, then a whiney birthday, a paper cut, a bit more whining, then a really long boring part in the middle, followed by about 15 minutes in Italy, and a rushed happy ending. I think that sounds about right, except that as they are actually shooting in Italy I think they plan on getting their money’s worth. If anything is going to be rushed it’s going to be the long months that Edward is gone (Random’s “really long boring part in the middle”). If they are going to screw with anything it’s going to be the beauty of Bella and Jacob’s relationship. I think they’re going to rush us back to Edward/Robert Pattinson. It’ll be tricky not having the Heart-ThRob in most of the movie.

No one I worked with recently got me like Random did. We like a lot of the same things. It is typically frustrating talking to him about geek stuff though, because we rarely agree even about the stuff we both like. No matter how frustrating, it’s always good for a laugh though. Today’s big laugh was Random saying, “If Edward had an alignment it would be Chaotic Dumb.” Thanks, Random, I needed that. I hope you had fun storming the castle tonight. And I certainly hope the Pandemic bugs didn’t get you down.

I seem to have some catching up to do. Here’s another Random post for you. One day, after The Churro Bella Incident, Random decided that churros would not be his Bella. If there were ever a food that he could fall in love with, it would be Reese’s Peanut Butter cups. I have seen him in action with the cups, my friends, and I would believe him if I were you. I thought about it. I had to think for a few minutes. I love food. Is there really just one food that is a powerful to me as Bella is to Edward? After a while I had it: chocolate and pear gelato from Arlecchino Gelateria in Phoenix. No, I can’t choose one. It’s the combination of the two that is so knee-bucklingly good. No lie. It’s the only food that’s ever made my knees buckle. I actually have an emotional reaction when I am so lucky to have this gelato, so it wins. It’s my Bella food. What’s your Bella food?

Some time after this conversation with Random he gave me one of his precious peanut butter cups (I know, right?). I was touched. It was a trap. I should have known. As I peeled off that brown paper in anticipation of a tasty morsel, Random shrieked, “What are you doing to Bella?!?” I paused. He laughed at me. Then I said, “Eatin’er!” And I took a nice big bite. I still had a mouthful when I reminded Random, “She’s not my Bella.” It was my turn to laugh at him then.

Of course I realize that this, like the Churro Bella Incident, are really exercises to try to teach me how ridiculous it is for vampires to fall in love with their food, but the joke’s really on Random. He just doesn’t get it. Vampires fall in love, it’s what they do.

Random tormented me all day at work yesterday with a Jack in the Box mini-churro, which he named Bella. All day he crooned to his little churro about how delicate yet delicious she was. It went something like this.

Random: Bella, I love you. How will I ever resist the urge to eat you? You smell too good.

Churro-Bella: (silence)

Me: Ha. Ha. Very funny, Random.

…Time passes…

Random: You are so fragile, Bella. I could so easily crush you with my superhero strength.

Churro-Bella: (silence)

Me: Churro would be a funny nickname for Edward to give Bella.

…Time passes…slowly…

Random: Bella your friends have all been so tasty. I’m sure you will be even tastier. But no! I can’t!

Churro-Bella: (thoughts still a mystery)

Me: You’re eating others? You’re cheating on Churro-Bella?

Random: It’s just good business. You don’t put all your eggs in one basket.

Me: You said you loved her! It’s not business!

Random: It’s business of the heart. Besides, I’m eating her competition.

Me: It’s Bella! There is no competition!

Random: Nom. Nom. Nom.

Churro-Bella: (giving Random the cold shoulder)

…Is it break time yet?…

Random: Bella, I don’t know how much longer I can hold out. Will I be able to save you until tomorrow? —

Me: I’m off tomorrow.

Random: Will I be able to save you until Thursday? Shall I build a house for you? (writes ‘Bella’ on the side of the mini-churro box)

Me: (points out how I’ve written GAZA on the divider between our desks)

Churro-Bella: (lounging in her knew crib)

…Will this day ever end?…

Random: Bella, I adore you. Shall I watch over you as you sleep?

Me: Good god! Haven’t you finished those damn churros yet? It’s been all day! How many come in a box?

Random: Ten. And I’m finished now. Nom. Nom. Nom. It’s just me and Bella now.

Me: Aww. I’m happy for you both.

Random: I think we can be happy together.

Me: I expect that churro to still be there Thursday.